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Iris: but then what's the point?12:40 PM of just one casual fun date
me: whats the diff with hanging out?
Iris: so is it hanging out or is it a date?
me: im not sure... whats the difference?
hanging out... on his tab
Iris: haha..
12:41 PM there are more emotions attached to a date i guess
i think a date feels like it could go somewhere other than friendship
hanging out is platonic
unless it's a PSEUDO DATE
me: lol omg too many word i just dont know
when i go out with girls we call it a date12:43 PM Iris: that's difft! that's just joking!
me: mehhh?????????
Iris: it's not a legit date with girls!
me: appointment??
its not a legit date with him
Iris: rendez-vous!
12:44 PM are there feelings attached?
me: no!
just fun!
Iris: then it's not a date at all right?
me: im gonna go look up date in the dictionary
Iris: lol
12:45 PM me: to go out socially on dates: She dated a lot during high school.
6. an appointment for a particular time: They have a date with their accountant at ten o'clock.
7. a social appointment, engagement, or occasion arranged beforehand with another person: to go out on a date on Saturday night.
8. a person with whom one has such a social appointment or engagement: Can I bring a date to the party?
12:46 PM Iris: okay but what about the connotations of the word "date"
me: thats the thing, i just dont know
12:47 PM hes basically saying... can i book you for a weekend
Iris: hmmm..
well okay what else did he say
does he think it's a date
12:48 PM me: he says he has no intentions of anything more than a good time and enjoying each others company
12:49 PM Iris: so..that's not a date right?? i am confused now..
me: what IS a date?
Iris: i have no idea!!!!
me: me neither
hahah sorry.
12:50 PM Iris: that doesnt sound like a date..right?
12:51 PM me: HAHA iris i dont know what a date is
i dont know if ive ever been on one
is it just a hangout where you evaluate the possibility of further hangouts at the end and have an awkward goodbye?
12:53 PM Iris: YES.
that sounds about right
1:04 PM me: i mean can it just be a platonic interest?
like hey robin can i buy you dinner?
tomorrow? we should catch up?
like that
yo i go on dates with vivian?
am i just conflating terms here
1:05 PM Robin: see
dates with girls are fun hangouts
1:06 PM like us hanging out would be called a casual date by some but a hang out by others
so to minimize confusion
I only apply the term date
1:07 PM to a time spent with a person of the opposite sex where the intentions are to get to know them better
me: well yeah!
Robin: and where it's made clear
me: isnt the intention always to get to know someone better
Robin: of course
but asians suck at being straightforward
they beat around the bush too much
1:08 PM a white dude woulda come up to you and said hey can I take you out on a date?
an asian guy says
lets hang out!
it's a murky area
because it gives both parties deniability
but also leads to confusion
as in are we on a date or what??
Vivian: I think a Date is a hangout with romantic intentions on both sidesme: so like what we do